A year of being married and all that jazz

We marked a year of being married yesterday with a lot of good food and some nice conversation. And here I am today with my laptop, writing this blog reflecting on a year of being married.

Being married is a beautiful thing. To have somebody you love, share the ups and downs of your life is very special. This past year has seen some highs and some lows. We have fought our own battle like every couple does but I am not writing this blog to talk about that. I am writing this blog to acknowledge and appreciate all the women in my life because being married has helped me see women from a completely new perspective.

This is to acknowledge the efforts of women who wake up much before dawn and before she works for herself, she cleans the house, prepares meal for her family and still manages to reach work on time. Also, to those women who reach home much after dusk, tired and weary, but with a lot of energy to prepare dinner and tend to her families’ needs.

I know a lot of women who are struggling everyday to maintain a balance between her professional life and personal life. Neither does she want to be tagged as a highly ambitious woman neglecting her family. Nor does she want to be judged at work for putting her family before work. This is for all the married women who are working outside home and still doing her best at both the fronts. Let nobody tell you that you are not doing it well enough! I also appreciate the efforts of women and mothers staying at home and taking care of her family and children because they matter.  

One of the greatest challenges since being married for me personally has been trying to accept my new family and regarding it as my own family. I had a hard time first few months when I had to drive home towards a completely opposite direction from my school. Every time I left my home and parents, it reminded me of my wedding day and my mummy says that feeling stays forever. Only a woman will understand the feeling of leaving your home to go to your new home. That thought of your parents continuing with their lives without you at home. But that’s how life is I suppose for us, women.

We need not one but two families to support our dreams and encourage us to do what we want to do. When I was asked to do a 9 to 10 p.m. show at the radio, some of my friends and family asked me if my new family was okay with that. Even my mother wasn’t sure if I should do a night show at the radio considering the fact that I am a married woman now. I know a lot of women who have had to give up on their dreams just because they were married. I salute those women who move on with their life creating new dreams. And for those women who are not giving up on their dreams even when not everyone around is so supportive, keep going. You are an inspiration already.

To all the married women reading this blog, keep loving your husband and celebrating life. Let nobody guide you into what or how a married woman should dress up. You can either look too married or look unmarried. That’s okay. Stay at home, if you can afford. Work like an ass if you are passionate about your work.  Laugh loud. Cook, eat, clean, repeat and enjoy being married.

P.S. And if you enjoyed reading or if you agreed to some of my thoughts, don't forget to tell me. It helps.