Letters to my son: Part 1_About Love

 Dear Chora

It is such a joy to see how you fond you are of Pumba. We are so glad that we decided to bring Pumba home. You two share a wonderful bond and we hope it continues to grow and two of you become the best of buddies. 

I am writing this letter about love today, the kind of love that helps us grow, prosper and that helps us stand up when we tumble and fall. I was reading a book by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie where she'd written about how it is important to love someone and be loved in return. And I hope that's the kind of love you seek for in life. When I say love, I don't necessarily mean a romantic love affair. Well, that's also very important but I am taking about all forms of love that we experience in life. To love someone for me means to find someone who makes us feel safe and valued. We love our friends, we love our pets and our family members and they love us in return. There's nothing like one-sided love. If you like or love someone but that person doesn't like being with us and doesn't value our presence in their life, it's best to let go of such people, even if that's our friend or a family member. Never stay in a relationship that makes you feel less or unimportant. But if someone loves and respects you for who you are, love that person with all that you have. Keep them close. Call them often to ask how they are feeling. Check on them and let that person know that you are there for them. 

And when you find a romantic partner in life, may you be able to love that person without any doubt, fear or confusion. The kind of love that we see in movies is often misleading. It sometimes shows that we need to protect our loved ones or be possessive or tells us that we should love and give everything we have even if that person doesn't love us the same way. That's a fallacy cause love that's not reciprocated is never love. 

I don't know if you'd remember our Saturday mornings when you grow up. We sleep in late and I bring you cereal in bed and your father brings tea for me and Pumba is always trying hard to sneak into our bed and you let him kiss and cuddle you and we don't rush to start our day. We are all safe and very relaxed. That's how love should always be. Comforting and heartwarming. 

Love 

Elisha

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